tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-33073305.post1934435418951810992..comments2023-10-07T04:42:30.669-07:00Comments on <a href="http://www.youthsportsparents.blogspot.com">Youth Sports Parents</a>: Coach regrets bad behavior - with a camera rollingMark Hymanhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/17727666156512632596noreply@blogger.comBlogger2125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-33073305.post-35578038623720559862011-03-30T11:38:46.269-07:002011-03-30T11:38:46.269-07:00Hi Mark,
Here is my response to this post, which ...Hi Mark,<br /><br />Here is my response to this post, which can also be found on my blog:<br /><br />http://coachingwithcompassionandawareness.blogspot.com/<br /><br />Thanks.<br /><br />Dan here:<br /><br />When our actions as coaches come from places that we do not ourselves fully understand, we are moving into difficult and troubling territory. Coach O'Connor is in no way unique; perhaps exaggerated and "over the top", but in no way unique. I would assume that he felt angry about something that happened (or didn't happen) during practice, that he reacted to his anger by behaving inappropriately, and that he realized after the fact that perhaps he had crossed the (implied) line.<br /><br />There are hundreds of "Coach O'Connors" working with our kids today. These men and women, I would argue, lack self-awareness. When they feel angry, they do not possess the ability to question themselves as to whether or not their anger is justified or if it is in fact based in reality. They see their perceptions as truth, and they react accordingly. Worse still, these coaches often develop elaborate rationalizations as a way to make their impulsive behaviors appear righteous and entirely acceptable.<br /><br />We live in a culture that does not value self-examination. We live in a culture that honors melodrama and "winning" more than it does truth. As coaches, I think that part of our job is to be tireless in our own commitment to examining how and why we respond to situations and to certain children in the manner we do. And as we become increasingly self-aware, our tendency to react thoughtlessly and impulsively to our states-of-mind diminishes, and our ability to treat our players with more compassion and respect grows.Danhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02629934080871994373noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-33073305.post-47700335979469163122011-03-02T19:50:45.266-08:002011-03-02T19:50:45.266-08:00Mark,
This turned out to be a disaster between pl...Mark,<br /><br />This turned out to be a disaster between player and coach. The Good Morning America video is available on my blog site - www.stlsportsmanship.blogspot.com. In coaching, your objective is to make your players better. I don't see how that drill or the "accident" that happened make anyone bettter.Solomon Alexanderhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14110587492433101854noreply@blogger.com